INFINITY.

With 2007 only hours away from being officially over, both Lilinoe and I agree that it was a year of new beginnings, unexpected opportunities, and most importantly put closure to many issues we each begrudgingly carried year after year. The following is a summary of our 2007:

JANUARY:

We rang in 2007 exactly the same way we will 2008, on the island of Maui. My sister and her family live in Lahaina, and since we had such a good time, we decided to make it a tradition.

FEBRUARY:

Knowing that a solid foundation is a key ingredient to contributing to a stable and healthy environment, realizing that our friendship is progressing and growing to one of complete trust and appreciation, and after several hours of vulnerable discussions, Lilinoe and I decide to “shack up”…err, co-habitate, effective March 1, 2007.

MARCH:

After more than a decade away from the sport, I made a commitment to coach 9-10 year old girls in a youth basketball league with one of my father’s former players. I was practically raised on the hardwood floor, and my life choices had led me away accepting that any accolades achieved were simply appreciated as something of the past. In other words, I wasn’t drinking beer in a friend’s garage talking about how great we were in the good ol’ eighties. Besides, basketball had evolved and so had the dynamics of competitive sports altogether.

These days, parents are grooming their children for the collegiate level at this age, and I certainly did not want any part of this progress, but I had a plan. Teach the players the fundamentals of basketball, team concept, and representing themselves to the best of their capabilities, and if we happen to win a couple of games, great. The league gave us an appropriate team name, “Shock” because after starting the season at 5-0 many of the veterans were asking, “Who are the new coaches?” I’ll add that my friend, whom is really a long-time family friend had been out of the game longer than I had, and by trade was a Kumu hula. So, our players were coordinated in not only uniform, but hairstyle and all of the plays were in Hawaiian. We ended our season tied for second place, but it was the friendships that I built with the parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, and of course the players that are bringing me back for another season.

APRIL:

We received a letter from the Kamehameha Schools informing us that Jayden has been accepted into the preschool. We are filled with gratitude, and humbled for the opportunity. Now, our only goal “perfect the potty training!” For a few months we had been working with Jayden, making the transition from pull-ups to underwear as seamless as possible, but I’ll admit the process was testing the limits of my patience. But, the day we shared the letter from Kamehameha Schools with Jayden, he was “instantly” potty trained. No more overnight accidents or debates of preferring to wear a pull-up instead of underwear. Both Lilinoe and I realized that attending school was important enough for Jayden to understand that he had to be potty-trained.

MAY:

Our basketball season ended at the end of the month, and I wondered how I would keep myself occupied.

JUNE:

A week of searching for a new hobby, I read an article that would introduce me to a virtual new world, social media and networking. Of course I had subscribed to the insanity of MySpace.com so I was well aware of social networking sites, however I wasn’t too keen of the evolution of the ‘net. I read ’bout the phenom of user generated content like Digg, and would read but never participated in web forums, and blogging seemed too intimate for me to ever consider. I sort of chuckle when I realize how close minded I was, yet open to at the very least discovering what was new and interesting on the world wide web.

JULY:

I dove head first into the sea of social media and networking, and added my email address and profile to every networking site available like Twitter, HawaiiThreads and Ustream, and more. No one from my MySpace list of friends would consider migrating to anything else, and my real life circle of humans rarely checked their email accounts so I was literally “cold call” networking.

AUGUST:

As the first day of school for Jayden nears, I have a mild anxiety attack of concern for his safety while not in my presence, of course it passes, but I shocked my usually calm self. Also, INFINITY blog is born and the NEW STEPS series begins documenting Jayden’s first experiences at Kamehameha School.

SEPTEMBER:

It’s been six-month’s since the decision to “shack-up” and all is well in our household. Our dear friends Heather Pantohan and Bishop Vincent are married in a very intimate ceremony at the Okinawan Center garden. The reception was emceed by local comedian Rodney Villanueva, and an excellent jazz ensemble serenaded throughout the evening.

OCTOBER:

I add a new word to my vocabulary, Truemors and have the opportunity to meet a true celebrity in the technology industry, Guy Kawasaki. Our very brief conversation, and occasional online exchanges provides an opportunity for me to be donned, Truemorist.

NOVEMBER:

As I shared previously, I moved to Maui while Lilinoe and the children continued to live on Oahu. It’s a temporary move, and Skype is so much better than a casual telephone conversation. The University of Hawaii football team ends their season as the only unbeaten Division I team and an invitation to the Sugar Bowl. Not to mention quarterback Colt Brennan got an official nod as a finalist for the Heisman Trophy.

DECEMBER:

Our resolution was simple, to have a better year than 2006 and looking back we can honestly say that we’ve accomplished our goal. We leave 2007 with gratitude for the opportunities, moments, and knowledge. We look forward to the promises of 2008 and the launching of our new website: www.FALEAFINE.com.

This is the last day of 2007 and last post of INFINTY.

All the best to all of you in 2008.

Wishing everyone a Mele Kalikimaka this holiday season. We are spending ours on the beautiful island of Maui with my sister and her family, and let’s just say that it’s a good thing that not only do we love each other, but we also enjoy each others company - a group of ten adults and children can get a bit crowded.

With list in hand, debit cards in wallet, Lilinoe and I were able to check the couple of dozen off of our Christmas list in one day! Yes, it’s not a typo, just one day! With effective communication and a “plan” Christmas shopping can actually be a joyous event. And really isn’t it supposed to be? Sure we endured the bumper-to-bumper traffic during our commute to Waikele, Ala Moana and across the street to Pearlridge; but we passed the time singing songs and laughing with and at each other.

This morning, we woke when our bodies told us too, and casually prepared for our Christmas buffet brunch at the Ka’anapali Beach Hotel’s Tiki Terrace. KBH, as it’s known by the local Maui folk labels itself, “Maui’s most Hawaiian hotel,” with its Polynesian decor, wall dedicated to stunning photos of hula dancers, and a menu of a medley of island flavors. KBH has been on the shores of Ka’anapali for over 20 years, and its customer service is cloaked in Aloha spirit garnering many awards. There was one wrinkle in our experience, and while I won’t divulge the details, I must recognize the hotel representative, Madeline Rabago who handled the matter in the most professional manner and as I said earlier, “cloaked in the Aloha spirit.”

We headed home to unwrap presents, and had joked with the children that we’d do so after a nice, long nap. My sister implemented the “trash bag” system to minimize the clutter, not to mention possibly losing a few gifts. Most 3-year-old boys are happy with a stick and a rock, however our little guy still has an obsession with the movie “Cars” and after opening the latest version of “Mack” he wanted nothing more to do with any other gifts. Chelsea more than deserved her Nintendo DS Lite and brand new pink digital camera, and the expression on her face was priceless. (Note: Lilinoe has been playing the DS Lite more than Chelsea has so far trying to win at “Connect Four”). My niece Taimane was thrilled with tearing the wrapping paper off, but she especially loved the package of panties from Tutu, and danced with her favorite television characters, Dora “We did it, we did it!” (You need to watch Dora the Explorer cartoon to understand.)

I gave the world wide web a peek into the gifts I purchased for Lilinoe and she was glowing with gratitude upon receiving each one. I patiently waited for everyone to finish, and Chelsea was anxious for me to open my gifts. For those who know me, know that I like accessories, not the stereotypical kind, but sunglasses, a hat, a little bling on the ears. I opened the box and unveiled a cool pair of Arnette’s which is one of my brands of choice. But nothing could prepare me for my next gift. For those of you who really know me, know that while I yearn for “big kids’ toys and gadgets” I exercise control and practicality. I live by a budget that includes a comfortable lifestyle, but invests in our children’s future so the gadgets come during sales or after building up the savings account. And, even when the budget calls for it, it takes a lot to convince me to make a hefty purchase without feeling guilty. Well, my dearest Lilinoe, whom by the way is much more frugal than I, surprised me more than when I received a “Big Wheel” for my 6th birthday. The box looked odd shaped, it wasn’t shaped like a cellular phone, and it couldn’t have been a laptop since I purchased one last month. It was heavier than airline tickets, and it couldn’t be we’ve already planned our next vacation in Arizona and Nevada. It certainly wasn’t a massage at the spa, Lilinoe surprised me with a reservation at the Westin Maui earlier this month on my birthday. And, after losing our digital camera, we purchased a new Canon only a few weeks ago. So what could it be?

A CANON DVD CAMCORDER!

I was stunned as you can see, and absolutely grateful. These are moments that I am reminded how truly blessed I am with Lilinoe, Chelsea, Jayden and my entire family. I could not ask for more…

Today is day seven on Maui. Work is good, there was much preparation before my arrival, therefore the transition is smooth. One of the highlights of my first week was spending time with my sister’s children; Amu (10), Tolea (9), Taimane (2) and Kaulana (10 days!). The older children belong to “Na Kamali’i ‘O Ke Akua” (Children of God) and participate in performances 3-4 times per week, provided their school work and other responsibilities are completed.

I was able to catch the Thursday night double performance, first at the Westin Ka’anapali Ocean Resort Villas. The “Villas” as it’s commonly known amongst the locals is a vacation ownership property that opened it’s doors in 2003. It’s a luxurious property with lagoon style pools, waterfalls and slides and sits in front of prime oceanfront property. There are a lot of water activities, including scuba diving, snorkeling, kayaking and windsurfing. The sunset is breath taking and you can watch it from your balcony, on the beach in a cabana or a hammock. One of the attractions for me was a line of gas grills set-up near the poolside. And of course, at sunset you can enjoy a fun, heartwarming keiki Polynesian show.

We then took a quick drive down Honoapiilani Highway to the “Lahaina Cannery Mall” a place I frequented almost daily during my first tour of duty on Maui especially since there’s a Longs Drugstore, Safeway and the all important Footlocker. This show featured the teenage dancers, fresh from volleyball practice at Lahainaluna High School, but you couldn’t tell as they gave a hip-shaking performance.

Once again I will be moving to the island of Maui for work, and though I’ve been preparing for the past three months, it’s finally beginning to sting.  I will be traveling alone; without Lilinoe, Chelsea or Jayden and the reality of not having them nearby is piercing.  For more than two years, Lilinoe and I have spent time with each other everyday, even if for a few hours before we reached the recent milestone of “living together.”  As I described in previous posts, she’s wonderful…our souls have fused.  Chelsea is growing into a strong, independent, determined young lady and it’s my privilege to witness her life.  And, Jayden has already attempted to pack his bags!

We shall take advantage of all of the technology available to continue to communicate frequently, and have already booked flights for them to visit often. 

I look forward to rediscovering Maui, a sanctuary of mine and our traditional destination to welcome in the new year.  I have the opportunity to spend time with my sister and her family, focusing on building a better relationship with her children, especially my niece Taimane.  The overall move to Maui is positive, except of course without my family.