Lika’s Log

“If a child hasn’t been given spiritual values within the family setting, they have no familiarity with the values that are necessary for the just and peaceful functioning in society.”
–Eunice Baumann-Nelson, Ph.D, PENOBSCOT

“When we are born, we start with a beautiful empty mind ready to be given our beliefs, attitudes, habits and expectations. Most of our true learning comes from watching the actions of others. As we watch our family or relatives, whatever their actions and values are, so will be the children’s values and acts. If we see our families living a just and peaceful way of life, so then will the children. If we see our family shouting, arguing and hateful, so will it be for the children. The cycle of life - baby, youth, adult and Elder is all connected. If the older ones have good values, it will be connected to the children.”

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My parents use to lecuutre me big time about the topic above. Over & over again. It was da short version though. It started with “No make shame on dis family name” and ended with da belt. I think as a kid, all this being lectured “crap” does not sink in or register till you’re an adult & become a parent. Ok, with me… all dis neva registah till I became a parent.

I pretty much gave my kids da “updated” moe modern “no embarrass me” “people going tink I wen teach you dat” lecture and no had belt or lickens attached. I figured out early on dat if I embarrass my kids first, they think twice before embarrassing me cause they knew from small time how embarrassing I could be to them. You know…”MOM you’re gonna wear that?” Think: Peg Bundy with flat hair. LOL

Between my parents and I there was a serious “generational gap” and being that my Dad was from da “old country” well that in itself explains it I think. Also it was a 60’s 70’s kind of thing , yeah. The music, the clothes, more music….

I know with my parents and me, they didn’t like what I listened to and I didn’t like what they listened to. There was a definite line. Kids. Adults. With MY kids, I liked their music more then they liked mine. LOL Then again thats me.

The rule in our vehicles is, drivers choice; passengers listen to what the driver wants to listen to. My car, my rules. I’ve always had the car radio on oldies or classic rock. My kids use to hate it. Operative word: “use to.”

Now as adults they know if its Santana or Beatles. I’m always amazed that they know this stuff and I ask them how do you know that. They look at me and say “you MADE us LISTEN to it.” Oh yeah no huh? LOL

I like music you can dance to. Grew up on Motown. You know Clubhouse Dances and Waipahu Gym Battle of da Bands. But also like Rascals, Jimi Hendrix, Stones, etc. LOL Straight up old school. On the classic rock station the other day, they played DEEP PURPLE but I didn’t know that was the name of the group but the song was, Smoke On the Water or is it called Smoke In the Water?

My child of da 90’s class of 2000 listen to mostly hiphop & rap; he use to break dance, he now DJ’s makes his own mixes blah blah blah - a real music kind of person. I find it funny that he asks me about certain “old school” stuff so that he can mix it with the current stuff. Then he asks his sisters about the 80’s stuff. We all can pretty much listen to one anothers music with out disagreeing. Of course there are exceptions but its not such a big deal. That would never ever happen between me & my parents. I like Snoop Dog, go figgah.

I think with music “our generation” we are more open minded. We will listen once maybe twice, we don’t just shut it off. I think my kids are that way too. Luckily I didn’t raise any punk rockers/head banging lovers cause I would punk rock head bang dat kid right up da side of da head. Wea da belt?

My kids were not big Hawaiian music lovers. But they’ve gone to Makaha Sons & Kealii Reichel concerts. They know talent when they hear it and they really enjoyed them. I like Makaha Sons but in person, oh wow how amazing; there’s that whole manao’ thing that you can only get live. Same with Kealii Reichel, so much talent. You know if I stand next to Kealii Reichel, he will look tall! *L* But I digres……. hehehe

Yeah the fruit doesn’t fall far from da tree……… who told me dat?

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