U shure u fownd dat book cuz i taut i did.

Da thing is, Lika, u akamai. You’re adaptable. And if u dunno da ansah, u can find out. That’s da secret: Say, “Adunno, but I can find out”. Initiative. U get plenny of dat. Which will stand u in good stead. Lack of experience? If u tellum u dunno but going find out, dat’s wat dey like hear. Cuz shows u akamai enuf to find out.

U go, girl!

As for: “Actually I fill myself with fear and freak myself out. What’s going on in my mind and what actually going on being two different ends of the spectrum.” Just STOP it!

I really think men DON’T have this problem. It’s a woman thing. As in: our minds are our greatest enemy. Too much TINKING. What’s the solution?

First: don’t think so much. Chill. Just ASK if you don’t know something. Yeah, every new situation has it’s own terminOLOGY. Jargon. THEY know what it means. We don’t.

Too, the older I get, the more I make ‘em REPEAT. You get into trouble when you assume stuff. If I REALLY don’t want to look stupid, I rephrase what I think they meant instead of just repeating it back.

And I write everything in a little black notebook. Yeah, when I do that, they look at me funny. But it HAS already saved my bacon, cause it turns out folks DO change their minds.

The other day, I was walking to meet a friend for lunch (just a once a month thing) when my supervisor was walking the opposite way. She really didn’t see me, until I called her name. Then, she proceeded to rattle off a bunch of ideas she wanted to implement. Guess what? I don’t carry my book, and I was only thinking lunch. I did ask her to go over it all later. She did, in front of three of us, so it was good.

Take it easy, girlfriend!