Intellectual Stimulation

I'm watching as a friend fades from Naomi's life. And mine, I guess.

I'm not certain if this is a phase, but I'm really tired of people seeing Naomi as a mere convenience. She's so dependable and caring that anyone could take her for granted. She'd always be there, no matter how selfish they may be.

I wish she would just find a friend who actually cared about her for a change.

Naomi has always been unselfish. She gives people rides and will cut out time in her day to attend to the needs of others.

Superficiality runs rampant. Suddenly Naomi has become uninteresting or not intellectually stimulating, unable to connect people to Honolulu's "professional" scene. The thing about intellectual stimulation is that it's just another kind of drug - that's all. It stimulates your senses for awhile, but you only need more and more of it to make you happy. And if others can't supply this, you blame them, not yourself, for boredom. People, then, are reduced to stimulators, vibrators or a kind of mental pornagraphy. People no longer are souls. How cruel. How very wrong.

Naomi's friend seems to be abandoning Naomi in an effort to find company that is of the same intellectual caliber. Am I being naive in my anger? Or is what's taking place in Naomi's life fair? Why can't people walk over bridges together? Why can't people show each other new worlds, instead of leaving people behind?

Are there so few people of substance in this world that they can't even see how wonderful Naomi is? Why are people so willing to throw her friendship away?

Naomi knows who she is, so she'll just move as the waves take her. She'll be OK.

Sometimes, you think some things will last a long, long time. But everything changes. I will have to find ways to manage change and move forward.

Posted by ruth at September 16, 2002 06:22 PM