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January 07, 2003

The Blind Chase

Now here's a question: What is it about a beautiful woman that will cause a guy to be so blind to her otherwise blaring deficiencies?

For some guys, a beautiful woman can say something like, "The sky is so blue," and they might say, "Wow, she's deep." But if an unattractive woman were to say the same thing, they might say, "God, she's so irritating." Not all guys are like this, I realize, but the proportions are somewhat disturbing.

I have a friend who is interested in someone blaringly shallow and self-centered, and he can't help but think she's "awesome." He keeps asking my opinion, and I keep talking till I'm blue in the face, and he thinks I'm being unfair to her. Ultimately, he thinks I'm delusional and will continue the chase. Oh, the human species.

Posted by Ruth at January 07, 2003 09:42 AM


Posted by Albert on January 7, 2003 1:11 PM:

I don't think it's just whether someone is "beautiful" or "handsome". Some folks theorize about pheromes and such, but let's face it, love happens, whether it makes sense or not. Infatuation happens even more easily.

Doesn't do a bit of good if friends think you're making a fool of yourself. :)

Like you say ... "oh, the human species" or as Old Bill put it, "what fools these mortals be."

Posted by Ruth on January 7, 2003 2:09 PM:

Foolish is right. But that's half the fun, I guess.

BTW - Do you know anyone who has used pheromones and proclaims its effectiveness? The ads in the SkyMall magazines on the plane are much too funny.

Posted by kane on January 8, 2003 2:59 AM:

I don't think this phenomenon is exclusive to males, as females too fall for those with glaring deficiencies.

But if the chase was looked upon in practical and rational terms, far less people would be involved in the chase at all.

Fortunately, there are quiet moments of the day when thoughts of someone come to mind, and feelings grow without making any sense at all.

There are few perfect people available for relationships, so thank goodness the heart can help us all overlook the minor flaws.

Posted by ali on January 8, 2003 9:47 PM:

Thankfully, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Otherwise, a few of us non-Barbies might be a bit lonely. :) What was that old saying? Someone for everyone?

Posted by Albert on January 9, 2003 11:38 AM:

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Not to forget "love is blind". Some of my friends have been telling me I'm blind for over five years now. :)

Posted by ali on January 9, 2003 9:46 PM:

Ha, ha, ha! And in addition to blind, love can also be deaf, dumb, and stupid. (Yes, not very PC but it was a favorite saying of an old friend of mine.) Kinda true :)

Posted by Carrier on January 10, 2003 10:12 PM:

To be completely honest from my own observations while pretty girls do have the upper hand when meeting a guy for the first time, they are also usually the same who will have many failed marriages and relationships. Why? Because if the beauty is not backed up by common interests and desires then the other person moves on to someone just as pretty.

But to be completely honest, why the heck would you want a guy that says "wow, she's so deep" over a pretty girl with no brain. Don't fight for those guys, just let em keep on moving.

Posted by blogny on January 11, 2003 12:07 PM:

Seems the definition of "beauty" is most significant: some consider skin, hair, figure (of whatever proportions), some regard character, values, poise, accomplishment, some regard cooking, sincerity, companionship and compassion, as beauty.

All in the eyes of the beholder, in a various combinations of most of those qualities.

Physical beauty, alone, can be cruel, both to those who manifest it and to those who adore it, because, the physical always degenerates, if only due to gravity alone, much less living conditions and time.

I've known several physically "beautiful" women, especially, who become raging lunatics due to social pressures about and due to their appearance (many other women are very cruel to those with physical beauty, and, most men can't leave them alone, despite less than honorable intentions). It's best to search out more substance to a person, other than just the appearance of appeal.

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